This post is so very close to my heart. Jake and Danielle have been trying to grow their family for years now. I asked Dani to send me a paragraph (or 2 pages) explaining what all they have been through because there are so many other couples and individuals out there going through extremely similar circumstances.
I hope that in reading their story you will find comfort in knowing that you are not alone and that you also find hope for the future <3
"When we started our 'baby journey' 3 years ago, I never thought the word 'infertility' would be brought up. I figured that Jake and I would try for a few months and that eventually I would become pregnant. Little did we know...
After a year of trying to conceive and still no pregnancy, my doctor suggested that we try an IUI (intrauterine insemination). We thought, 'sure, why not?', and figured that we would become pregnant right away. But after 3 failed IUI's, our doctor called us in and told us he thought it was time to send us to an infertility specialist.
Our world stopped.
After much thought and even more prayer, Jake and I decided to go meet with our new doctor. He reviewed our charts and decided it would be best to move forward with IVF (In Vitro Fertilization). It was a term that we had heard tossed around before, but never gave much thought to what exactly it entailed. After countless shots, medicine, and more appointments than I ever imagined, we were on our way to Indianapolis for the retrieval of all of the eggs I was supposed to have produced. But after my procedure we got bad news -- the majority of my eggs were not fit for transfer. After a 5 day wait we got that call that officially none of my eggs made it, and that the transfer was no longer possible.
Our world stopped a second time.
I became depressed and started questioning God's sovereignty because I couldn't see the bigger picture.
It turns out that I had endometriosis. Once I had the surgery to correct it, and once I was fully healed, we started the IVF process for a second time. But something was still not right. The doctor told us that this time around they retrieved even fewer eggs than the first time around.
How is that even possible? I had surgery to correct my endometriosis. It all started to seem like such a waste of time and effort. Not to mention emotionally draining.
Since the chances of me getting pregnant with my own eggs was slim to none, we were told that now we needed to search for yet another option-- an egg donor. We weren't thrilled with that news, so we spent time thinking and praying once again. After a few weeks we decided that this was the route the Lord was taking us, so we began to search high and low for the perfect egg donor; and after a while we got a call from one of our nurses saying that she found us the perfect match. It seemed to good to be true, but she was right--she was everything that we were looking for.
We got all of the paper work started and had to wait a few weeks so my cycle and our donor's cycle could get matched up. As we were waiting patiently, however; the unimaginable happened.
My period was late.
How could that be? My period has never been late. We knew it was a long shot, but we decided to buy a pregnancy test.
It turns out that God wanted to do things His own way and on His time because...
I WAS PREGNANT!!!!!
After 3 years, 3 failed IUI's, 2 failed IVF's and finally finding an egg donor -- we conceived naturally... on our own.
If it weren't for Jake's constant love, support and encouragement I would have given up on being a mommy long ago. We heard a quote at church that said "When everything seems like it's falling apart, that is when God is putting things together".
To all of you other hopeful mommies out there-- hang in there and don't give up faith.
God is SO good <3"